What to expect when you are going through a divorce:

  • This is just the beginning, expect to go through a whirlwind of emotions. This is normal!  Be patient, you aren’t going to be all better over night, but in time you will be better than ever!  So let time do its thing and trust that you will be happy again soon.
  • Everyone is going to give you advice. Either because they care about you or they think that you will be better off by sharing their wisdom with you…many people will feel the need to tell you what you should do with your divorce.  Appreciate that people care about you, thank them for caring and let them know that your attorney is working to ensure that you have the most equitable and reasonable settlement that you can get.  Then hopefully change the subject!
  • You are paying good money for your attorney to do what is in your best interests. Your attorney is doing everything within the parameters of the ethical and legal bounds of the law to ensure that your divorce goes as well as possible.  Therefore, you can and should trust his guidance and advice.
  • Don’t use your children as pawns. Your kids are already reeling enough and probably not completely understanding why their parents aren’t together anymore.  They may even blame themselves for your impending divorce…in their best interest they don’t need to be used to manipulate your future ex-spouse.  Both of you will ALWAYS be their parents…don’t compromise being a good parent because you are moving on to be happy.  Let the kids know that after things get settled that everyone will be better off and happier for the decision.

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